Most dating sites have a very limited space, so I figured I would write a bit here. I am asked the same questions in most cases so my thought was to answer them in more detail than I would usually be able to do on my phone or in short notes. To start with I am 61. I was married for 30 years. Unfortunately my wife was an alcoholic. She devolved in to constant drinking, lying, stealing and cheating. She was horribly abusive to both the kids and myself. A few years back she left, filed for divorce, then died before it was final. So technically I am a widower. I have two children, both adults. My son is on his own, my daughter (28) still lives with me. She is a costume designer and model https://rose.imagesprophotography.com I had a girlfriend for a little bit after my wire died, but I had cancer surgery a couple years ago and she was unable to stick with me during the surgery and recovery. She became obsessed with a friend and was with her during it all. Normally I wouldn’t mind, but with the circumstances it was really my turn. A reality of life is that times are not always good, and it is important to me to have someone who will stick by my side. It is in my nature to take care of others and most of the time I am pretty independent, but sometimes it would be nice to have someone to help me as I do for them. I am mostly recovered from the surgery, a couple side effects, but I am back to being able to hike several miles.
I have always worked in technical fields. Television, computer, and currently I work for a two way radio shop. https://mra-raycom.com I am the senior network engineer, radio tech and web master. I am also a licensed amateur radio operator https://scran.org with which I do a number of community service events such as Special Olympics https://sosc.org and disaster communications https://lacdcs.org Doing this I have been to many interesting places. I have been to crime scenes, and fires. Worked at red carpet shows and on mountain tops.
I enjoy camping and am very at home in the mountains. I was a scoutmaster for 30 years. I also can sail, though I don’t currently own a boat. I am also a semi-pro photographer. On occasion I get a paid job, but mostly it is an artistic expression for me. https://imagesprophotography.com I do work with models, but it is strictly professional. While some of them become friends, I don’t date models, that would be unethical. Sometimes I do pictures for friends as well.
I am often asked what I am looking for. Often about the time that someone tells me “no hookups”. Despite the stories, I am not really convinced that hookups exist anyhow. Maybe there is the rare occurrence but I suspect they are more story than reality. I have never done a hookup, one night stand, FWB or three way in my life. I was a husband and a father, but my wife is gone and my children are grown. On top of that it came out at the end that my wife had never loved me. That is probably the most important thing to me, I want to be loved. Trying to coerce someone in to bed is not in my nature, I need to be wanted, it has been a very long time since I felt that I was. I would also like someone to go on activities with me and to be by my side in life. Someones honest, and someone I can talk with. I honestly don’t know if I will find someone. My thought is that it takes time to get to know someone. For now it would be nice to find someone that is fun to be with, someone that will be a good friend. I believe that a good relationship starts with a good friend.
I don’t smoke and don’t drink. I really can’t be around smoke. I don’t mind if someone has a couple drinks. Excessive drinking can be an issue for me. I don’t use drugs either. I don’t belong to a church. I am a spiritual person, but feel being in nature is closer than church.